A kisbaba odabújik hozzád, megsimogatja a bőröd, belebújik a mellkasodba, odaszuszog, megcuppog, megfogja a kezed, hát ezek az érzések megunhatatlanok. Ugye?
Még soha egy anyuka sem mondta azt hogy ááh de fárasztó már ez a babaillat..., ez a puha bababőr....
A hordozóeszköz pedig lehetővé teszi, hogy ezt az érzést állandósítsuk magunkon, na jó nem feltétlen 24 órán át, de akár úgy is :). Mellesleg a hordozás azt is jelenti, hogy ő is szagolhat téged, a jó kis mamaillatot állandóan, puha ölelésben lehet amikor csak akar.
Az egyetlen ami beárnyékolja ezt az érzést időnként az az emberektől érkező megjegyzések tömkelege. Na jó kapsz kedves kommenteket is. Mert azért van olyan is, aki látván édesen rajtad szuszogó babádat, felidézi, hogy bizony ő is hordozta az övét, és milyen jó volt, vagy megjegyzi, hogy milyen békésen alszik a kicsid a hordozóban. Ilyeneket is kapsz, de persze a negatív az mindig jobban megmarad az emberben. Ilyenek vagyunk, mit tegyünk.
Mert negatív beszólások vannak bőven, egyszer el is kezdtük ezeket gyűjteni, hiszen még viccesek is lehetnének, ha nem éppen hormonhegyek közt hányódva kapnád a fejedhez őket.
A mamami fórumon ITT találod ezeket a Negatív beszólások - Frappáns válaszok topikban.
De hogy ne csak a negatívról szóljunk, ITT gyűjtjük a pozitív megjegyzéseket is, amiket kap az ember lánya hordozás közben.
De nézzük csak miket is vágnak az anya fejéhez a leggyakrabban:
#1 Oh szegény hátad, nem szakad le?!
Jaj, de ez a picuri kis baba képes a hátamat tönkretenni, a kis piszok... De várjunk csak, minél korábban kezdem hordozni, annál könnyebb és szokik hozzá a testem, fokozatosan terhelve hozzáerősödöm. És persze alapvetően rossz karban levők kezdjenek mozogni, jógázni, gerinctornázni stb. Nem csak a hordozás miatt!
#2 Oh annak idején nem voltak ilyenek!
Ah ezek az új, modern szülői trendek már megint mit találtak ki?! Hordozni a saját gyermeket? Mennyivel jobb is volt régen, mikor nem "szabadott" felvenni a síró babát. Azok a régi szép napok...
#3 Kap levegőt benne a baba?
Neeem, direkt zárom el előle a levegőcsapot, mert van otthon még másik 4. Most komolyan, tényleg azt hiszi valaki, hogy ha nem kapna levegőt benne, ebben hurcolnám???
#4 Elkényezteted azt a gyereket! Csak lóg rajtad, le se tudod majd tenni!
Teljesen egyetértek! Ezeknek a mai gyerekeknek arra van szükségük, hogy ne foglalkozzunk velük, szokjanak csak hozzá, hogy senki sem törődik velük, ez egy ilyen világ... Tényleg ezt akarjuk?
Egy elindulni vágyó gyermeket pedig senki nem akadályozhat meg a járásban, felfedezésben, ha egyszer elér odáig a kis agya fejlődése. Még én, az önző, állandóan magamon hordozni akaró szüleje sem!
#5 Na nem sokáig bírod már majd így cipelni!
Az hogy ki mit bír, az egyéni. Erről egy dal jut eszembe:
"And I'm sorry that you don't like your life
I fought for my own victories and for the beauty in my life
My joy, my joy, my joy takes nothing from you
no, my joy, my joy takes nothing from you"
... Frazey Ford
#6 Van egy régi babakocsim, neked adjam?
Oh igen, és kajára is kéne egy kicsi apró, ha ki tudnál segíteni :) (mamami forrás)
#7 Szegényke, jó be van oda szorítva!
Panaszkodik is mindig az a szegény gyerek. A pocakomban pedig mekkora tágas helye volt!
#8 Így soha nem fog megtanulni járni!
Hát bármily meglepő is, megtanul, sőt! Illetve azért letesszük ám őket :)
A hordozás során a
gyermek egyensúlyérzékelő rendszere folyamatos ingereket kap, ezek pedig
segítik az agy fejlődését, valamint a mozgásfejlődést. Mivel a baba
teste viszonylag szorosan az anyáéhoz simul, izmai reagálnak az anyai
test mozgása során létrejövő kis erőhatásokra, ezáltal az izomzat is
folyamatosan fejlődik.
Részletek: http://www.webbeteg.hu/cikkek/csecsemo_gyermekneveles/3134/a-gyermek-hordozasa
Részletek: http://www.webbeteg.hu/cikkek/csecsemo_gyermekneveles/3134/a-gyermek-hordozasa
A hordozás során a
gyermek egyensúlyérzékelő rendszere folyamatos ingereket kap, ezek pedig
segítik az agy fejlődését, valamint a mozgásfejlődést. Mivel a baba
teste viszonylag szorosan az anyáéhoz simul, izmai reagálnak az anyai
test mozgása során létrejövő kis erőhatásokra, ezáltal az izomzat is
folyamatosan fejlődik.
Részletek: http://www.webbeteg.hu/cikkek/csecsemo_gyermekneveles/3134/a-gyermek-hordozasa
Hordozva
a gyermek egyensúly érzékelő rendszere folyamatos ingereket kap, ezek
pedig segítik az agy fejlődését, valamint a mozgásfejlődést is. Mivel a
baba teste szorosan az anyához simul, izmai reagálnak az anyai mozgások
erőhatásaira, ezáltal fejlődik az izomzata. Részletek: http://www.webbeteg.hu/cikkek/csecsemo_gyermekneveles/3134/a-gyermek-hordozasa
A hordozás során a
gyermek egyensúlyérzékelő rendszere folyamatos ingereket kap, ezek pedig
segítik az agy fejlődését, valamint a mozgásfejlődést. Mivel a baba
teste viszonylag szorosan az anyáéhoz simul, izmai reagálnak az anyai
test mozgása során létrejövő kis erőhatásokra, ezáltal az izomzat is
folyamatosan fejlődik.
Részletek: http://www.webbeteg.hu/cikkek/csecsemo_gyermekneveles/3134/a-gyermek-hordozasa
Részletek: http://www.webbeteg.hu/cikkek/csecsemo_gyermekneveles/3134/a-gyermek-hordozasa
#9 Ah én nem vagyok ez az "ősanya" típus.
Milyen az az ősanya típus? Aki szereti a gyermekét, szereti megölelni, megadni neki a testközelséget, amire annyi szüksége van, és kismillió tanulmány is alátámasztja, hogy még az immunrendszerének is jót tesz, vagy aki el akar jutni könnyedén A-ból B-be anélkül, hogy egy 8 kilós babakocsit kéne felcipelnie a lépcsőn (plusz gyerek!), vagy ha be akar férni egy bolt ajtaján? Valahogy él bennem egy halvány remény, hogy nem az alapján ítéled meg a szülői minőségem, hogy miben transzportálom a gyermekem...
#10 Fúúú ez nagyon bonyolultnak tűnik! Hogy teszed fel? Ezt egyedül biztos nem lehet felkötni.
Ez persze nem negatív beszólás, de ide sorolom, mert gyakran jön elő. És erre komoly választ kell adjak. De néha bonyolult, néha nem sikerül úgy, ahogy szeretnénk, akárcsak a babakocsi összerakását, szétszerelését, ezt is megtanulod, és mint mindenben, ebben is gyakorlat teszi a mestert. És a babahordozó eszközök tára is egyre bővebb, így vannak egyszerűbb és kissé bonyolultabb használatú hordozók. Erről írunk a következő posztunkban!
És végül "elrettentésképpen" néhány kép:
Ha segítségre vágysz a hordozóeszköz kiválasztásában, keress minket bátran!
Online segítség, akár azonnal! MAMAMIBOLT
Babywearing is one of
the rare things in life that never gets old. Having your baby snuggled
up on your chest, reaching out to hold your hand, and babbling away to
you as you go about your business isn’t really something you tire of.
No parent has ever thought, ‘I am just so fed up of this new baby
smell,’ or ‘These teeny tiny soft baby feet are just so tedious now.’
Having your baby in a sling, wrap or carrier means you can sniff that
sweet head whenever you want, and of course, it means your baby is
pretty happy because he can touch and smell you, too.
There are only two downsides to babywearing. The first is that when your
baby is old enough to eat solid foods, you will spend your evenings
digging out raisins from your cleavage. And the other is the comments
you will receive from other people.
Of course, not all of these comments will be bad, you will get lovely
comments too. People who run over to tell you how much they loved
babywearing when their kids were little, or those who can’t help but
comment on how happy your baby looks nestled against you. And then you
will also get the odd negative comment, from friends and strangers
alike. - See more at:
http://www.bellybelly.com.au/baby/10-things-babywearing-parents-get-tired-of-hearing/
Babywearing is one of
the rare things in life that never gets old. Having your baby snuggled
up on your chest, reaching out to hold your hand, and babbling away to
you as you go about your business isn’t really something you tire of.
No parent has ever thought, ‘I am just so fed up of this new baby
smell,’ or ‘These teeny tiny soft baby feet are just so tedious now.’
Having your baby in a sling, wrap or carrier means you can sniff that
sweet head whenever you want, and of course, it means your baby is
pretty happy because he can touch and smell you, too.
There are only two downsides to babywearing. The first is that when your
baby is old enough to eat solid foods, you will spend your evenings
digging out raisins from your cleavage. And the other is the comments
you will receive from other people.
Of course, not all of these comments will be bad, you will get lovely
comments too. People who run over to tell you how much they loved
babywearing when their kids were little, or those who can’t help but
comment on how happy your baby looks nestled against you. And then you
will also get the odd negative comment, from friends and strangers
alike.
How many of these 10 things have you heard?
#1: Oh, Your Poor Back!
Ah yes, this tiny baby is absolutely killing my poor, decrepit back. I
can barely hold myself up, the baby is just so heavy. You would think
nature would have made our infants smaller so they could be more easily
transported from place to place, hey wait a minute…
#2: You’re Making A Rod For Your Own Back There
Actually, it was the surgeon who made me one, and then fitted it.
Seriously, give my spine a tap, it clinks like metal!
#3: That Looks Complicated
I’ve just watched a woman flip her pram handle bars to change the way
her baby faces, turn a carry cot into a car seat and clip it in the car
before collapsing the pram using just her little finger. She did all of
this while carrying a smoothie, and without waking the baby, and in
under one minute flat. And you think this rectangle of cloth looks
complicated?
#4: We Didn’t Have Those In My Day
Ah yes, the crazy newfangled parenting craze of carrying your own baby.
Things were much better in your day, back when nobody had to waste any
energy picking up babies if they cried. The good old days, sigh.
#5: Can Your Baby Breathe In There?
Baby, what baby? I just like the carrier. Kidding, of course. Yes,
there’s a baby in here, he may or may not be breathing. Thank goodness
you reminded me. I’ll just check, yep, he’s breathing. PHEW!
#6: You’re Spoiling That Baby
I totally agree with you there. Babies these days are so pampered with
love and attention, it’s appalling. What babies really need is to be
ignored, and to get used to how uncaring life is. After all, carrying
babies around now is going to leave them entirely unprepared for life as
adults. That’s actually why I’m carrying her like this. Not so I can
comfort her easier, but so she can see that I’m NOT comforting her. When
she cries, I just ignore her, and I don’t want there to be any
confusion as to why.
#7: You Won’t Be Able To Do That For Much Longer!
I have already vowed that I will do this either until he leaves for uni
or until my back breaks, whichever comes first. And nothing you say is
going to change that.
#8: I’m Not Really Into That Sort Of Parenting
You mean, parenting? I’m not entirely sure what you mean by this sort, I
hope you’re not judging my entire parenting style simply off how I
transport my baby. That would really suck. It would be like if I assumed
you were always rude just because you made one insensitive and
judgemental comment.
#9: I Can’t Carry My Baby All Day, It Hurts My Arms
I’m not trying to insult your intelligence or anything, but trust me
when I say this wouldn’t hurt your arms. Unless you were lifting weights
at the same time, and then had muscle ache the next day. Or unless a
door closed too fast and you got your arm stuck in it, that would
probably hurt. But having your baby securely fastened into a carrier so
you can have your arms free really doesn’t hurt your arms. Believe me.
#10: I Have An Old Pram You Can Have
Oh, thank goodness. All this time I’ve been pretending that babywearing
was a choice, but really I hate it. I am forced to babywear simply
because I don’t have a pram. Thank you so much for saving me from
myself.
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really tired.
14 comments
Claire says:
May 25, 2015 at 3:46 pm
Oh and number 11….
Your baby will never learn to walk if you don’t put him down.
Well actually I do put him down but if I do it in this social
situation you will want to pick him up and breathe on him and give him
sugary foods to eat when he is only 6 months old.
Reply
Gem says:
May 27, 2015 at 5:28 pm
hahaha hilarious and so true!!!
Reply
Lana says:
May 25, 2015 at 7:19 pm
I enjoy wearing however the “hurts my arms” bit is not untrue. I
have bursitis in my shoulders. I have a carrier that keeps their hips
spread wide and fastens well BUT there is no getting away from it. After
a few hours my shoulders feel like they have been lit on fire. Yes I
have tried different carriers including the ergo which was worse for my
shoulder than the 25 year old papoose I use now. Some people are going
to have a sore back or sore shoulders from wearing. It is unfair to
claim that no one will. In fact if I am correct most baby wearing groups
stress that if carriers cause pain to get support so they don’t. That
doesn’t always work either but clearly demonstrates that yes some
carriers will hurt your upper arms
Reply
Emma says:
May 26, 2015 at 9:22 am
Have you tried a torso carry? Using a woven wrap with no straps
over your shoulders? I love a good torso carry =)
Reply
Curtecia says:
May 28, 2015 at 1:10 pm
I need to try the torso carrier too then because my baby
bjorn carrier has my neck and shoulders hurting very bad…i even feel the
fire sensation she speaks on
Reply
Melissa says:
May 26, 2015 at 3:36 am
“I just don’t see how that could be safe.” /facepalm
Reply
Shauna says:
May 27, 2015 at 2:24 am
People are just curious and full of opinions. It’s a shame that
there has to be an article written about what people comment on. I hope
no one reads this that has said any of those things to a mother. It’s
embarrassing to think you have said something stupid and have to read
about it on a mother’s page. Can’t we just absorb someone’s else’s point
of view, smile and move on? Before social media we just listened to
what we felt was valid in our lives and maybe had a laugh with friends
over a silly question and that was that.
Reply
Joy says:
May 28, 2015 at 1:51 am
Amen! I am a babywearing mama and I found this article rude and
unhelpful.
Reply
Eileen says:
May 28, 2015 at 8:02 am
What a kind and thoughtful comment Shauna. One is made to feel
very stupid for voicing the “wrong” comment, meant kindly. Baby fashions
in care change….there is no need to be superior in manner because you
think your ways are best and put others down by smart replies.
Reply
Mel says:
May 28, 2015 at 11:39 am
Perhaps you could take this article as an educating tool to
prevent you from saying “embarassing” things again. By being embarassed
on one occasion reading something in private is much better than mothers
who do things differently than you being judged, harassed and also
maybe embarassed too on a regular basis. Or don’t read these types of
articles.
Reply
B says:
May 28, 2015 at 1:06 pm
I could not agree with you more! As if one person speaks for all
moms who transport their babies in a certain way? It would be nice if
people took curiosity at face value and didn’t treat it like criticism.
Reply
Maxine says:
May 27, 2015 at 7:49 pm
I got a ‘What happens if you fall over?!’ I am pretty pleased i had
the brain power to respond with, ‘Why? Do you fall flat on your face on a
regular basis?’ Though recently i have had several strangers approach
me, asking where they can get a carrier like mine, and how they can
learn to do it too! baby wearing is spreading! Though yesterday in the
shop, he was asleep and i heard a little boy asking why i was carrying
my baby like that and his dad told him ‘ because she wants to, you can
carry a baby like too!’ and someone was like, ‘Oh wow, you have a bay in
there!?’ And i showed them his little sleeping face!
Reply
Jodie says:
May 28, 2015 at 2:45 am
You missed “what if you fall?!” And “what if it unravels?!”
Reply
Christian says:
May 28, 2015 at 1:08 pm
Sorry, but a lot of these are women being too sensitive. A Moby
wrap, for example, DOES look complicated and for someone that is not
used to seeing people baby-wear, it makes sense that they would
think/say that. It isn’t rude. Asking if it hurts your back is ALSO not
rude. Some people are just curious, and it’s a shame that babywearing
parents come off as being so stinkin’ offended by comments that are not
intended to be mean.
Reply
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- See more at:
http://www.bellybelly.com.au/baby/10-things-babywearing-parents-get-tired-of-hearing/
Babywearing is one of
the rare things in life that never gets old. Having your baby snuggled
up on your chest, reaching out to hold your hand, and babbling away to
you as you go about your business isn’t really something you tire of.
No parent has ever thought, ‘I am just so fed up of this new baby
smell,’ or ‘These teeny tiny soft baby feet are just so tedious now.’
Having your baby in a sling, wrap or carrier means you can sniff that
sweet head whenever you want, and of course, it means your baby is
pretty happy because he can touch and smell you, too.
There are only two downsides to babywearing. The first is that when your
baby is old enough to eat solid foods, you will spend your evenings
digging out raisins from your cleavage. And the other is the comments
you will receive from other people.
Of course, not all of these comments will be bad, you will get lovely
comments too. People who run over to tell you how much they loved
babywearing when their kids were little, or those who can’t help but
comment on how happy your baby looks nestled against you. And then you
will also get the odd negative comment, from friends and strangers
alike.
How many of these 10 things have you heard?
#1: Oh, Your Poor Back!
Ah yes, this tiny baby is absolutely killing my poor, decrepit back. I
can barely hold myself up, the baby is just so heavy. You would think
nature would have made our infants smaller so they could be more easily
transported from place to place, hey wait a minute…
#2: You’re Making A Rod For Your Own Back There
Actually, it was the surgeon who made me one, and then fitted it.
Seriously, give my spine a tap, it clinks like metal!
#3: That Looks Complicated
I’ve just watched a woman flip her pram handle bars to change the way
her baby faces, turn a carry cot into a car seat and clip it in the car
before collapsing the pram using just her little finger. She did all of
this while carrying a smoothie, and without waking the baby, and in
under one minute flat. And you think this rectangle of cloth looks
complicated?
#4: We Didn’t Have Those In My Day
Ah yes, the crazy newfangled parenting craze of carrying your own baby.
Things were much better in your day, back when nobody had to waste any
energy picking up babies if they cried. The good old days, sigh.
#5: Can Your Baby Breathe In There?
Baby, what baby? I just like the carrier. Kidding, of course. Yes,
there’s a baby in here, he may or may not be breathing. Thank goodness
you reminded me. I’ll just check, yep, he’s breathing. PHEW!
#6: You’re Spoiling That Baby
I totally agree with you there. Babies these days are so pampered with
love and attention, it’s appalling. What babies really need is to be
ignored, and to get used to how uncaring life is. After all, carrying
babies around now is going to leave them entirely unprepared for life as
adults. That’s actually why I’m carrying her like this. Not so I can
comfort her easier, but so she can see that I’m NOT comforting her. When
she cries, I just ignore her, and I don’t want there to be any
confusion as to why.
#7: You Won’t Be Able To Do That For Much Longer!
I have already vowed that I will do this either until he leaves for uni
or until my back breaks, whichever comes first. And nothing you say is
going to change that.
#8: I’m Not Really Into That Sort Of Parenting
You mean, parenting? I’m not entirely sure what you mean by this sort, I
hope you’re not judging my entire parenting style simply off how I
transport my baby. That would really suck. It would be like if I assumed
you were always rude just because you made one insensitive and
judgemental comment.
#9: I Can’t Carry My Baby All Day, It Hurts My Arms
I’m not trying to insult your intelligence or anything, but trust me
when I say this wouldn’t hurt your arms. Unless you were lifting weights
at the same time, and then had muscle ache the next day. Or unless a
door closed too fast and you got your arm stuck in it, that would
probably hurt. But having your baby securely fastened into a carrier so
you can have your arms free really doesn’t hurt your arms. Believe me.
#10: I Have An Old Pram You Can Have
Oh, thank goodness. All this time I’ve been pretending that babywearing
was a choice, but really I hate it. I am forced to babywear simply
because I don’t have a pram. Thank you so much for saving me from
myself.
Related Articles
Baby Sleep Mistakes – 5 Things To Avoid
Baby Sleep Mistakes – 5 Things To Avoid
8 Reasons Not To Find Out The Sex Of Your Baby
8 Reasons Not To Find Out The Sex Of Your Baby
20 Things Babies Would Say If They Could Talk
20 Things Babies Would Say If They Could Talk
15 Things To Avoid When Visiting A Newborn Baby
15 Things To Avoid When Visiting A Newborn Baby
Recommended by
Fiona Peacock CONTRIBUTOR
Fiona Peacock is a writer, researcher and lover of all things to do with
pregnancy, birth and motherhood (apart from the lack of sleep). She is a
home birth advocate, passionate about gentle parenting and is also
really tired.
14 comments
Claire says:
May 25, 2015 at 3:46 pm
Oh and number 11….
Your baby will never learn to walk if you don’t put him down.
Well actually I do put him down but if I do it in this social
situation you will want to pick him up and breathe on him and give him
sugary foods to eat when he is only 6 months old.
Reply
Gem says:
May 27, 2015 at 5:28 pm
hahaha hilarious and so true!!!
Reply
Lana says:
May 25, 2015 at 7:19 pm
I enjoy wearing however the “hurts my arms” bit is not untrue. I
have bursitis in my shoulders. I have a carrier that keeps their hips
spread wide and fastens well BUT there is no getting away from it. After
a few hours my shoulders feel like they have been lit on fire. Yes I
have tried different carriers including the ergo which was worse for my
shoulder than the 25 year old papoose I use now. Some people are going
to have a sore back or sore shoulders from wearing. It is unfair to
claim that no one will. In fact if I am correct most baby wearing groups
stress that if carriers cause pain to get support so they don’t. That
doesn’t always work either but clearly demonstrates that yes some
carriers will hurt your upper arms
Reply
Emma says:
May 26, 2015 at 9:22 am
Have you tried a torso carry? Using a woven wrap with no straps
over your shoulders? I love a good torso carry =)
Reply
Curtecia says:
May 28, 2015 at 1:10 pm
I need to try the torso carrier too then because my baby
bjorn carrier has my neck and shoulders hurting very bad…i even feel the
fire sensation she speaks on
Reply
Melissa says:
May 26, 2015 at 3:36 am
“I just don’t see how that could be safe.” /facepalm
Reply
Shauna says:
May 27, 2015 at 2:24 am
People are just curious and full of opinions. It’s a shame that
there has to be an article written about what people comment on. I hope
no one reads this that has said any of those things to a mother. It’s
embarrassing to think you have said something stupid and have to read
about it on a mother’s page. Can’t we just absorb someone’s else’s point
of view, smile and move on? Before social media we just listened to
what we felt was valid in our lives and maybe had a laugh with friends
over a silly question and that was that.
Reply
Joy says:
May 28, 2015 at 1:51 am
Amen! I am a babywearing mama and I found this article rude and
unhelpful.
Reply
Eileen says:
May 28, 2015 at 8:02 am
What a kind and thoughtful comment Shauna. One is made to feel
very stupid for voicing the “wrong” comment, meant kindly. Baby fashions
in care change….there is no need to be superior in manner because you
think your ways are best and put others down by smart replies.
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Mel says:
May 28, 2015 at 11:39 am
Perhaps you could take this article as an educating tool to
prevent you from saying “embarassing” things again. By being embarassed
on one occasion reading something in private is much better than mothers
who do things differently than you being judged, harassed and also
maybe embarassed too on a regular basis. Or don’t read these types of
articles.
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B says:
May 28, 2015 at 1:06 pm
I could not agree with you more! As if one person speaks for all
moms who transport their babies in a certain way? It would be nice if
people took curiosity at face value and didn’t treat it like criticism.
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Maxine says:
May 27, 2015 at 7:49 pm
I got a ‘What happens if you fall over?!’ I am pretty pleased i had
the brain power to respond with, ‘Why? Do you fall flat on your face on a
regular basis?’ Though recently i have had several strangers approach
me, asking where they can get a carrier like mine, and how they can
learn to do it too! baby wearing is spreading! Though yesterday in the
shop, he was asleep and i heard a little boy asking why i was carrying
my baby like that and his dad told him ‘ because she wants to, you can
carry a baby like too!’ and someone was like, ‘Oh wow, you have a bay in
there!?’ And i showed them his little sleeping face!
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Jodie says:
May 28, 2015 at 2:45 am
You missed “what if you fall?!” And “what if it unravels?!”
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Christian says:
May 28, 2015 at 1:08 pm
Sorry, but a lot of these are women being too sensitive. A Moby
wrap, for example, DOES look complicated and for someone that is not
used to seeing people baby-wear, it makes sense that they would
think/say that. It isn’t rude. Asking if it hurts your back is ALSO not
rude. Some people are just curious, and it’s a shame that babywearing
parents come off as being so stinkin’ offended by comments that are not
intended to be mean.
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- See more at:
http://www.bellybelly.com.au/baby/10-things-babywearing-parents-get-tired-of-hearing/
Babywearing is one of
the rare things in life that never gets old. Having your baby snuggled
up on your chest, reaching out to hold your hand, and babbling away to
you as you go about your business isn’t really something you tire of.
No parent has ever thought, ‘I am just so fed up of this new baby
smell,’ or ‘These teeny tiny soft baby feet are just so tedious now.’
Having your baby in a sling, wrap or carrier means you can sniff that
sweet head whenever you want, and of course, it means your baby is
pretty happy because he can touch and smell you, too.
There are only two downsides to babywearing. The first is that when your
baby is old enough to eat solid foods, you will spend your evenings
digging out raisins from your cleavage. And the other is the comments
you will receive from other people.
Of course, not all of these comments will be bad, you will get lovely
comments too. People who run over to tell you how much they loved
babywearing when their kids were little, or those who can’t help but
comment on how happy your baby looks nestled against you. And then you
will also get the odd negative comment, from friends and strangers
alike.
How many of these 10 things have you heard?
#1: Oh, Your Poor Back!
Ah yes, this tiny baby is absolutely killing my poor, decrepit back. I
can barely hold myself up, the baby is just so heavy. You would think
nature would have made our infants smaller so they could be more easily
transported from place to place, hey wait a minute…
#2: You’re Making A Rod For Your Own Back There
Actually, it was the surgeon who made me one, and then fitted it.
Seriously, give my spine a tap, it clinks like metal!
#3: That Looks Complicated
I’ve just watched a woman flip her pram handle bars to change the way
her baby faces, turn a carry cot into a car seat and clip it in the car
before collapsing the pram using just her little finger. She did all of
this while carrying a smoothie, and without waking the baby, and in
under one minute flat. And you think this rectangle of cloth looks
complicated?
#4: We Didn’t Have Those In My Day
Ah yes, the crazy newfangled parenting craze of carrying your own baby.
Things were much better in your day, back when nobody had to waste any
energy picking up babies if they cried. The good old days, sigh.
#5: Can Your Baby Breathe In There?
Baby, what baby? I just like the carrier. Kidding, of course. Yes,
there’s a baby in here, he may or may not be breathing. Thank goodness
you reminded me. I’ll just check, yep, he’s breathing. PHEW!
#6: You’re Spoiling That Baby
I totally agree with you there. Babies these days are so pampered with
love and attention, it’s appalling. What babies really need is to be
ignored, and to get used to how uncaring life is. After all, carrying
babies around now is going to leave them entirely unprepared for life as
adults. That’s actually why I’m carrying her like this. Not so I can
comfort her easier, but so she can see that I’m NOT comforting her. When
she cries, I just ignore her, and I don’t want there to be any
confusion as to why.
#7: You Won’t Be Able To Do That For Much Longer!
I have already vowed that I will do this either until he leaves for uni
or until my back breaks, whichever comes first. And nothing you say is
going to change that.
#8: I’m Not Really Into That Sort Of Parenting
You mean, parenting? I’m not entirely sure what you mean by this sort, I
hope you’re not judging my entire parenting style simply off how I
transport my baby. That would really suck. It would be like if I assumed
you were always rude just because you made one insensitive and
judgemental comment.
#9: I Can’t Carry My Baby All Day, It Hurts My Arms
I’m not trying to insult your intelligence or anything, but trust me
when I say this wouldn’t hurt your arms. Unless you were lifting weights
at the same time, and then had muscle ache the next day. Or unless a
door closed too fast and you got your arm stuck in it, that would
probably hurt. But having your baby securely fastened into a carrier so
you can have your arms free really doesn’t hurt your arms. Believe me.
#10: I Have An Old Pram You Can Have
Oh, thank goodness. All this time I’ve been pretending that babywearing
was a choice, but really I hate it. I am forced to babywear simply
because I don’t have a pram. Thank you so much for saving me from
myself. - See more at:
http://www.bellybelly.com.au/baby/10-things-babywearing-parents-get-tired-of-hearing/
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